Vee’s Inspiration May 24, 2023
I hope this is ok, My wife says I share too much personal stuff, but that's who I am and deep down, I know that's one of the reasons she loves me😉.
An exhale...
I'm confused, perhaps someone can help me with this. When I try to explain some of the obvious pitfalls of life to my young adults they don't listen, don't care, think I don't know what I'm talking about, or think they have all the answers. Ok, I get that. I remember being young and thinking I understood the world and had all the answers when I was their age. The part that confuses me is when life comes around and punches them in the face they seem surprised, mad at life, mad at society, mad at US, their parents. Then, when they come and ask for help and I hold them accountable for THEIR actions or THEIR in-actions, they get mad at ME. and then say, to their mom of course, “Dad is too hard, too tough or he doesn't understand what we're going through.” And now, I'm the bad guy?
SMH.
Parents can be a bit hypocritical, we say one thing, but do the opposite. And I guess that's why I'm so confused. I'm not confused about the actions of my young adults, by definition they're immature, selfish, moody, and irresponsible until they're not. I get that. I'm confused by my hypocrisy. I often say I'm not going to continue to help them with the drama they've created and then I turn around and help them get out of that drama. And then I get frustrated with myself for not holding myself accountable for doing what I said I was going to do or in most cases, what I said I was not going to do.
SMH
I get confused about when to help or when to allow them to work through life's difficulties (see today's Wednesday's Motivation). I know you might not know the answer because if you are a parent, you probably have struggled with or are struggling with the same hypocrisy. I'm smart enough to know there's no easy answer. The “eye of the needle” is difficult to thread. Sometimes I have to remind myself I'm not alone as I travel the road of this thing we call life.
My mom said to me once, “Parenting is a lifelong burden of love that becomes an unexpected gift” I understand that Mom, but I'm ready to open my gift. 🙂. I miss you every day.
For those who might be concerned about me, I'm 💯, so no worries, I just wanted to share my thoughts.
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